Jesus Cervantes
Gaylene McPherson
College Composition
September 16, 2014
Losing a
Loved One
My whole life I have always had my whole
family with me. I lived with both my grandparents and my parents in the same
house along with my little sister. I was pretty lucky to have two sets of dads
and moms living with me and teaching me things and caring for me at the same
time. I loved my grandpa he taught me lots of things. The most memorable thing
that he taught me was how to ride a bike I remember I was very scared, but he
taught me to be brave. He told me to get on the bike and to just go. I remember
I fell off the bike and got hurt but he told to get back on the bike and try it
again and I fell again. He told me to get on again and this time I didn’t fall
off and he said to just do my best whenever I keep failing and just keep doing
my best. My grandpa loved cycling, it was his favorite hobby, he would always
be fixing bikes and riding them as much as he could. After I learned to ride my
bike he would pick me up from school with his bike and also take my bike so we
can ride them home together. He taught me how to do chores around the house and
how to be a hard worker.
When I
was born my grandpa was done working but he would still get up early and do as
much as he could around the house. I learned a lot from him whether it was
directly or indirectly. He would tell me stories about life in México in the 20th
century and how different life was back then. He would make me laugh by making
funny faces he would say funny sounds. Overall my grandpa was a great example
for me growing up as a kid he would never get angry at anyone he was always
loved by everyone who knew him. He was a very healthy and strong man and
everyone thought he was going to live until he was at least 100 because he was
so healthy.
My life
so far to this point was very routine. I would wake up in the morning go to
school then see my grandpa waiting for me after school with the bikes so we can
go home and then I would repeat the same thing for the whole week, but
something changed. My grandpa was feeling sick, it was a shock to everyone because
he would rarely get sick because of his health and his great physical condition
from cycling. It was in the morning that my mom took him to the hospital and I
had school so my mom took him to the hospital I went to school not realizing
the events that were going to take place in the next couple of weeks. I got out
of school and I saw that my dad was here to pick me up instead of my grandpa
and he told me that we were going to go see my grandpa at the hospital. At the
hospital we arrive and I see my aunt’s uncles and cousins in the waiting room
with concerned and scared faces because no one in the family knew what news the
doctor was going to say. The doctor comes in and asks for my grandma and my mom
and her 3 sisters. They go out to the hallway to get the news that my grandpa
has pancreas cancer. I was in the waiting room and I didn’t get to see how they
reacted, but after asking my mom how she reacted she just started crying
uncontrollably. It turned out that my grandpa has had this cancer for a few years
now.
From
this experience I learned that no matter how healthy you live you can still get
sick. My grandpa was to stay in the hospital for the next two weeks. In those
two weeks I was told he was going to be fine by my mom, she didn’t want to tell
me the truth because she knew I wasn’t ready to know the truth. Looking back im
glad that my mom didn’t tell me because for those two weeks I would be scared
and confused. After two weeks of staying at the hospital my grandpa died. I
came out of school to find my dad with a very sad face expression. He told me
“son your grandpa died,” I said “what? I thought he was going to be fine.” I
was very confused I couldn’t believe that my grandpa had died. I asked my dad
“what’s going to happen now?” and he didn’t answer. We get into the car and we
arrive home to my mom and grandma crying uncontrollably. I have never seen my
mom cry how she did before so I was really confused. That night I was lying in
my bed and I was thinking of all the things that I did with my grandpa and
couldn’t help but feel sad that he was gone and started crying. Within the next
few days my grandpa was at the funeral service lying in the coffin. That was my
first time seeing a dead body and it looked lifeless, skinny, and it made me
very sad. Next was my grandpa’s mass at the local church and the whole church
was filled with people who loved my grandpa. It was packed and I wasn’t
surprised that so many people were affected by the loss of my grandpa everyone
loved him. At the mass the father was talking about how good a life my grandpa
lived and that this was not a time of sorrow but a time to rejoice that he was
in a better place now.
The next
morning was the funeral I remember getting up really early and dressing up in
all black clothing and going to church to meet with the father and my entire
family and everyone else who loved my grandpa and get ready to go to the
cemetery where my grandpa will be buried. The ceremony at the cemetery was the
final place where I can see the body of my grandpa before he was buried. I let
out all my emotions that day I felt the energy of my family’s tears and it felt
good to let out all our emotions. The death of my grandpa was a huge wakening
for me. It taught me that life is short and we all must enjoy while we can
because we all are going to die someday. I learned to appreciate the people in
my life while they are here.